Marriage Made In Heaven

I got this picture from an e-mail sent by an acquaintance through the internet.

Years ago, someone wrote in the New Straits Times that marriage is like a revolving door. Those who are in wants out... and those who are out wants in.

I later read in the Reader's Digest about a mother's advice to her daughter on the day she got married. The mother warned, if the daughter has any arguments with her husband, don't ever mention it to her.

Surprised, the daughter asked why. The mother said, "You might forgive him... I may not!"

It really takes two to tango. A fairy tale wedding is only the tip of the iceberg. What lies ahead after that day depends on how the couple react and make adjustments in their lives accordingly. Some are lucky enough to survive but a whole lot couldn't make it last. It's quite a gamble so one has to think thoroughly before really deciding to tie the knot and settle down.

It's best that one chooses one's companion according to the values laid down by Allah. Hopefully one will be bestowed with "sakeenah", "mawaddah" and "rahmah" in one's household. If one gets married in order to seek "mardhatillah", insya Allah, hopefully one's wishes will be granted by Allah.

One thing I must mention here is that, each time a son of Adam ties the knot, one of Iblees' children by the name of Daasim is assigned to wreck the marriage and tear it apart.... Dasim works 24 hours a day.... day in day out. One must always remember to seek refuge in Allah and remind each other about syaitans' wrong doings and bad intentions.

The one and only way to be sure that one is on the right track is by always checking and reminding each other to live according to the rules set by Allah. Perform all the wajib deeds, leave without question all the haram deeds, live according to the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad SAW.

Even the very first marriage made in heaven between Adam and Hawa was not spared from trials and tribulations ordained by Allah.... so what the heck. Just get on with it and pray that the person whom you chose to marry can withstand all the pressures of a married life and keep to promises made through good times and bad times... till you breathe your last.